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Let Go Of All Hope……

Posted on 04/10/2011 by admin
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I was introduced to the Law of Attraction about 10 years ago when I started studying NLP. One of the ‘mantras’ of NLP is that your Perception is your Projection. In other words whatever you put out there with your thoughts is what you will make into your reality, or to put it another way, whatever life you have is exactly what you have created for yourself. Now this is a fairly hard thing to get your head around and believe me I’ve seen people have huge arguments against it when they refuse to believe that they can’t blame some or all of the bad stuff that has happened to them on someone other than themselves, but I like it, I really like the fact that my life is what I have created in my mind because when it goes bad its no one elses fault but my own, and if thats the case then I don’t have to rely on anyone else to make it go really well, its all down to me and I like being that much in control of my own life.

So how an the law of attraction how or hinder you in business? When I was counselling I also used to hear people say that they couldn’t be happy until X….. , until they found the right partner, until they had children, until they lost 10 pounds etc, there was always an excuse and I still hear similar things now that I’m coaching. People tell me that their business will be successful when they have the right office, when they are able to afford a new PC, when they have a new studio, when they have made their first £10k etc etc, but the truth is there is absolutely NOTHING and I mean NOTHING stopping you from being successful right now.

One thing I always ask new clients is where do you want to be? Want do you want your business to look like in 5 years time? Invariably people answer me by saying “Well I HOPE that I will have …….” HOPE! Is that the best you can do with your dreams? HOPE for them????   Lets think about the word hope for  a minute, think about something that you HOPE will happen and conjure up an image of it in your mind, really associate with this thing that you HOPE will happen – got it?  Ok now think of that same dream and EXPECT it to happen, conjure up all the feelings and emotions associated with and and see what is there, hear the sounds and really FEEL this dream that you EXPECT to happen? Which felt better? Which felt more achievable?

The law of attraction EXPECTS your dreams to happen, it listens to all your dreams and hears that you are expecting them to happen that it gets to work asap. Some people use dream boards to keep their goals in the forefront of their mind, other manifest every day,other use journals, whatever works for you but the most important thing is do it consistently, abandon all hope and start EXPECTING!!

 

Claire x0x

 

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Do You Know The Difference Between Your Price And Your Value?

Posted on 03/08/2011 by admin
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When I start working with a new client one of the things that often comes up is price!  For some reason we all get into the trap of thinking that the only reason we are not getting business is because of our price and this actually couldn’t be further from the truth because there are, in fact, plenty of customers out there willing to pay exactly what you’re charging (and often much more) for exactly what you are offering – so why aren’t they?

Years ago someone (I honestly can’t remember who otherwise I’d give them full credit!) told me that the only reason someone wont buy from you is because they don’t understand the value you will bring to them and everytime that they so ‘no’ just means that you haven’t explained this well enough! This was a huge revelation to me at the time because it meant all the No’s I was getting was nothing to do with them, it was everything to do with ME and if it was to do with me then it meant it was in MY control and of course that was a GOOD thing! It meant that I could change things and turn all the no’s into yes’s and I did…..

Think about value for a minute, if we all bought on price alone no one go food shopping in Marks and Spencer and no one would buy any of the ‘finest’ range of foods in the supermarket chains but we all do, and we do it because we think the higher price is a higher quality product and it is more VALUABLE – we perceive that it’s worth the higher price tag. The same is true of your product or service – no matter WHAT the price tag is the customer has to be able to see the VALUE to them before they part with their money and the more VALUE you can add then the higher your price can be.

Just a couple of ways you can add value to customers is to position yourself as an expert by sharing relevant information on the product or service that you are offering, having a quality website, having a professional photograph of yourself on the website, responding quickly to enquiries, etc, etc.

Another way is to focus on the BENEFITS of using your service or product rather than the FEATURES and this is something that lots of people do wrong and my next Blog post will cover how define the two so make sure you don’t miss it.


Claire x0x

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In which I refuse to be someone else’s ego boost…

Posted on 03/20/2010 by admin
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The other day an Ex of mine sent me a text out of the blue asking how I was and what I was up to and whether I fancied meeting for a ‘chat’ … blah,blah,blah – this was a guy that dumped me last year and other than a ‘Happy Xmas’ and ‘Happy New Year’ (several days late) I’ve had no contact with him since. Now me, being me, am in a happy and confident place whether I am single or attached so when I received this text I went into the cupboard and put on my dusty cynical hat….

Now you don’t need a psychology degree (although I do have one) to know that people tend to contact their Ex’s out of the blue ,particularly if they were the ‘dumpee’ when they themselves get dumped, it’s like getting a shot of ego by contacting someone that wanted to be with you and maybe still does. Its just a quick fix because it reassures them that they are wanted and attractive and they are looking to you to reaffirm their ego. So don’t fall for it or read anything into it – guaranteed you’ll be dropped again like a hot potato!

It always amazes me how many people look outside themselves for happiness, I hear it all the time, “If I could just lose 1 stone I’d be happy”, “If I could just find a boyfriend I’d be really happy”, “as soon as I find a new job everything will be fine” The truth is happiness is something you generate from inside yourself, its in you right now and you dont have to find a new man, new job or fit in smaller clothes – when you can generate happiness from within you will find that all the other things just slip into place and you are not only less needy but you’re in control of yourself rather than being controlled by external factors.

Remez Sasson said : There is no need to search for happiness or to create it. There is no need to undergo all kinds of external experiences in order to enjoy it. It is always here, deep within your soul.

Decide today,right now to be happy x